Relationship Issues

Relationships involve two parties who influence one another, resulting in a cycle or “dance” which can be either helpful or unhelpful to the relationship at times . Rather than trying to find out who is to blame (assuming that there is a felt sense of safety in the relationship), we will look at the ways that each party influences the other and explore how each individual might differently and more helpfully relate to the other person in order to mutually meet one another's needs more often.

Using Emotionally Focused Therapy as a guide, we will look at the “dance” that you might be stuck in, notice how each party contributes to this dance, explore ways to build greater safety and trust, and begin to consider ways of shifting this “dance” to promote greater closeness in your relationship.